Why does your Facebook relationship status cause such a definition of you and your significant other? I mean, someone should proudly show they're in a relationship right? And God forbid you put that person's name on your page, UNDER the relationship status. Why does it have to be something so private? I don't have anything to hide, and I never will. If the relationship was never anything serious, at least express that.
Grow up.
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Shit or get off the pot
I love that line, and I don't think I could ever get tired of it.
I think this is something a lot of people deal with when in a relationship and I also think a whole lot more women than men feel like telling their significant other that is how they feel about their situation. Lets dive in or just say goodbye. Simple as that. Call me a hopeless romantic but why do so many people wait year after year.. after year, and sometimes everything ends and then all of that time is essentially wasted (depending on how you look at it, and depending upon how things went - still in my opinion: time wasted). If you're in love with someone and are happy, comfortable and still over the moon about them (which you should be if you love them), what are you waiting for? There is no such thing as forever. We will not be here forever so what is the wait for? If anyone knows how quickly time flies, I sure do. I can look in the room next to mine and see that my baby boy is going on 28 months. A quick side note, it saddens me that it's almost pointless to use months at this point because it's over the 1 year mark.. and the 2 year mark.
Anyway, back to the relationship/marriage topic at hand. It's so tough because divorce rates are so high because our society sucks at trying. It sucks at communicating. And a great majority suck at being faithful. Have I been burned? Oh yeah. Do I still want my forever with someone after everything I've been through? Most definitely.
When you know, you just know.. and if the other person doesn't know.. why wait? You cannot force someone to feel the same way you do if it's not there. I don't need to preach all of this.. everyone knows it already. Somehow though, so many people still think that the other person will change one day. Newsflash: they won't ever change. If by some miracle they do, it is always too late and will most likely be the wrong timing. Move on.
If there is one thing that I benefitted from everything, is I don't put up with the bs, I don't care and I won't stick around. I have plenty of happiness in the blue eyes of my baby boy and that truly is all I need.
I think this is something a lot of people deal with when in a relationship and I also think a whole lot more women than men feel like telling their significant other that is how they feel about their situation. Lets dive in or just say goodbye. Simple as that. Call me a hopeless romantic but why do so many people wait year after year.. after year, and sometimes everything ends and then all of that time is essentially wasted (depending on how you look at it, and depending upon how things went - still in my opinion: time wasted). If you're in love with someone and are happy, comfortable and still over the moon about them (which you should be if you love them), what are you waiting for? There is no such thing as forever. We will not be here forever so what is the wait for? If anyone knows how quickly time flies, I sure do. I can look in the room next to mine and see that my baby boy is going on 28 months. A quick side note, it saddens me that it's almost pointless to use months at this point because it's over the 1 year mark.. and the 2 year mark.
Anyway, back to the relationship/marriage topic at hand. It's so tough because divorce rates are so high because our society sucks at trying. It sucks at communicating. And a great majority suck at being faithful. Have I been burned? Oh yeah. Do I still want my forever with someone after everything I've been through? Most definitely.
When you know, you just know.. and if the other person doesn't know.. why wait? You cannot force someone to feel the same way you do if it's not there. I don't need to preach all of this.. everyone knows it already. Somehow though, so many people still think that the other person will change one day. Newsflash: they won't ever change. If by some miracle they do, it is always too late and will most likely be the wrong timing. Move on.
If there is one thing that I benefitted from everything, is I don't put up with the bs, I don't care and I won't stick around. I have plenty of happiness in the blue eyes of my baby boy and that truly is all I need.
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Anxiety
Being a single mom has definitely brought on plenty of responsibility, hardship, joy, but honestly one of the biggest things: anxiety. For me, it's because of not having my immediate family living nearby to help. Every time Logan even gets the slightest sniffle or cough, I go into panick mode and think of what the heck I'm going to do because I can't afford to miss any more work until next year. But even then, what happens next year? Do I use all of my vacation time for when he gets sick? I hope it doesn't end up being over 7 days. That's almost what I've had to use so far in the last 4-5 months between leaving early or not going into work at all. If there was ever a feeling of helplessness.. I get it every time. I want to care for my son, but I also am his provider and I'm screwed if I don't work. I hate feeling so torn. I hate not having someone beside me. I just want that comfort of knowing I have nothing to worry about. Wait, what is that like?
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